Coffee with the Subconscious

When I first came to the Enneagram I was looking for a solution to a problem... My formal training as a Graphologist was to analyze people's character and personality through their handwriting to develop their individual portrait.  When the handwriting sample had good equilibrium and an energized force, it was a productive and easy delivery. However... When I received a conformist, stuck handwriting I didn't know how to get them out of their shell to be themselves.  These static portraits were difficult for me to deliver... I was unable to tell them something that would benefit them. There was also a comment I heard at a British Academy of Graphology Workshop that kept ruminating in my head... 'She's not living in her Jungian Dominant function.' I was able to see in the handwriting sample what the instructor was talking about... But she was unable to offer a solution to arouse the writer's psychic energy to return them to their more natural flow. O

Are you in a relationship or trying to find one? Do you feel unsettled… Anxious… Not sure what to do or how to think? Hi… I’m Betty Rozakis… Learning Graphology, the study of character and personality through handwriting, helped me sustain a happy marriage for over 36 years.   It also facilitated my relationship as a daughter, mother, friend and employer. If you’re seeking a healthy relationship… It’s important to look at your self first. The hardest thing is to see our selves objectively. We unconsciously use our defense mechanisms unaware that they’re stifling and hurting us.   Our minds get stuck somewhere because of the external influences that have penetrated our lives. What’s going on with you? Are you using your positive strengths or are you stuck in your weaknesses? Did life get you off track and you don’t know how to return to your better self? Let’s examine your handwriting to assess your energy… Is it stuck, off balance or are you i

Second Divorce was in a lot of pain. Her migraine headaches wouldn't go away. It was almost two years. Why did her husband leave so suddenly? Why the brutal sudden divorce? The evidence was in her handwriting and in his. His signing salutation was "Namaste". According to "Google".....Namaste means "bow me you" or "I bow to you." It's a deep form of respect. In its purest sense it is a deep understanding of truth from the heart of two souls. He knew how to mess with her head. His writing was a harsh purposeful writing that was artful in concealing the truth about his motives. He was adept in giving a false appearance. Such a charmer.....a "wolf in sheep's clothing". Her pliable letter formations wanted to avoid conflict. She did everything she could to please him. She felt responsible for the divorce. Her head throbbed....full of guilt. He knew how to take advantage of her kind naive goodness..... An

Creative interaction is a priceless treasure... Over the weekend I attended a stimulating workshop. Amidst the joy... I sensed a silent discomfort that no longer pertained to me.   I couldn't say anything... I didn't want to disrupt the musing atmosphere. Time to write about it! Approaching 60....I no longer have the incontinence issue of my early 40's. I remember trying to stay in shape by jumping rope and doing jumping jacks...  When a scary thing happened.,. I felt some uncontrollable moisture drop between my legs. I didn't tell anyone... But I stopped doing jumping jacks. Then in 2003.... My life changed. Visiting Hawaii on our 25th Anniversary... My pioneering husband noticed a sign on the side of the road...  Alternative Medicine. His questioning mind had to explore... What were these bio-identical hormones & targeted vitamins? At the time I was experiencing some hot flashes from beginning Menopause. Sss

Get clarity with an Objective Blueprint. The first thing I see in a couple's handwriting is their rhythm. Is it enhancing.... Or Counterproductive? What's their common ground... Is it impressionable and superficial? Does a depth of mutual understanding exist to sustain the wrenches of life? Can they grow together... Are they destined to separate? Does one person have a better sense of self that can benefit the other? Are their core characters too different to reconcile? I've been examining the handwriting of couples in relationships for over 20 years. It's beautiful to see how the handwriting of two compatible people balance each other during their journey together. Conversely,  discourse is predictable when the identifiable core characters are unable to understand the other. Graphology is an invaluable tool for clarifying and assessing long term compatibility.   Get an objective blueprint of your self and the important

Seated in the movie theater... I feel the heart wrenching fear of Julianne Moore's portrayal of Alice slowing losing her mind. Her acting is Oscar worthy... I wish it wasn't an act for me.   The movie, Still Alice , reminded me of Beautiful Barbara... A fashion stylist who had helped me with my Wedding gown. Years later, when I visited her at one of my father's Nursing Homes... I was shocked at her altered physical state.  Neither of us recognized the other.   In the early 1960's, my physician father built Nursing Home's because he understood the burdensome effects of disease. Did he have a premonition of his Parkinson's fate?! Both Alzheimer's & Parkinson's are progressive neurological diseases. They give warning to the genetically afflicted. Alice tried to stage a suicidal cure... My father camouflaged a weak heart for surgical acceptance. In vulnerable support... I agonized that my father wouldn't survive the s

You'd think that having similar interests is the foundation for a sound relationship. At the on set... Sure... Great! But the truth is... What's behind those similar interests? This is Key... Important. It's the underneath that can make or break a relationship. Why does one do what they do? What's their driving spirit? One of the things I've found most difficult to understand about my work as a graphologist is the concept  of duplicitous behavior and conformist handwriting. What's duplicitous behavior? Why don't people evolve? Why do they get stuck? Why do I have to keep looking up duplicitous, persona and narcissistic in the dictionary? The passion to want to understand... searching... To uncover... To resolve. Not being afraid to address the pain... The inner torment. To understand the DEEP why... The Universal Why. You Deserve a Great Relationship... www.bettyrozakis.com Betty Rozakis Graphology