Dear B... How Can I Become Authentic?

Dear B...

Can you tell from my handwriting
what I need to do to become authentic and content with myself?

Falconer F 48

Yes, Falconer....
You like to be courteous and clear...
But your spontaneous tendencies are being suffocated in order to achieve self-control and what you feel is appropriate behavior.
These are some of your inner contradictions that make you feel like an impostor.
But more heartfelt is the fact that you feel insignificant and lonely.
You want to emphasize your own position but keep making excuses for yourself.
Trying to stand your ground and assert yourself...
You feel like you're split in two.
You're resisting, shielding yourself and hiding your anger.

You're prudent, disciplined and are able to give the impression that you're calm...untroubled...serene...
But you're feeling self-conscious and lack sincerity.
You understand other people and can easily put yourself in their position
But in doing so you risk losing your own point of view.
You're stuck in doing what you think you should do....
Instead of what YOU want to do.

You don't give up easily and stick to your own feelings of activity....
You're trying to overcome your disappointment..but lack stamina.
It's not healthy for you to go along to get along.
It's important for you to feel independent and that your opinion matters.
You have a radiant personality and good judgment...
Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and make those decisions that are right for you!

Could it be your husband's point of view that's been taking precedence over yours?

It may be of benefit to you to objectively understand your husband.
If you don't feel comfortable asking him to provide a writing sample...
Gather as many notes , letters, cards, envelopes and examples of his writing along with his signature that you can find.
Let's take a look and hopefully be able to shed some more light on how you can overcome your Feelings of bondage and be free...like the Falcon.

Interesting choice of pseudonym.....
The Falcon is the symbol of liberty, freedom and victory.

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Know Your Self......Know Your Relationships....Know Your Solution

Dear B....Aching in Flagstaff

Dear B,

I have had a chronic (non-stop) headache for the past 13 months as a result of a brutal sudden divorce and am in constant pain.
Enclosed also is a copy of my ex's handwriting.

Thank you so much!
Aching in Flagstaff

Hi....

No wonder you're in such chronic pain!

This man is obsessed with giving the impression of refined masculine charm.
But the truth is....
Your ex-husband is a VERY harsh and manipulative man.
He knows how to hide his true self and won't stop until he gets what he wants.
He knows how to mess with your head.

Your type of character wants to avoid conflict...
You go along to get along....
You're being too diplomatic and keeping your TRUE feelings all bottled up inside of your head.
You're unsure of yourself ..
You feel guilty, beaten and discouraged.
Please know that it's NOT your fault!

On his note to you he signed....
Namaste

This man doesn't care about mutual respect and deep understanding of truth from the heart of two souls.
He knows how to manipulate your kind and loyal heart!
This is the type of man who lies....
He lies like he breathes.
The deceptive charmer!

You have a need for social contacts...
But the RIGHT social contacts that appreciate your inner beauty.
You're easy-going and generous.
This man did not deserve you!
You're better off without him!

Feeling any better?
If you're back in the dating scene ...
Forward their handwriting...
Let's make sure that they're not another "Wolf in sheep's clothing!"

Take care,
B.

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

A Blessing In Disguise

I noticed two men at the front of my property line...
They stood facing my front window...
Comfortably discussing...
I never saw them before....
I felt the tension erupt inside my body...

I KNEW that something was amiss.....
They smiled and waved.... then drove away
They were up to something.....

On Saturday the letter arrived.
A recent survey determined that the outer most part of our yard didn't belong to us...

I felt violated.
This MUST be a mistake.
That's not what we were told when we bought the property!
Then I heard a beep....
A text from my husband...
We'll confirm their findings.....
But it's not so bad to have help maintaining the front area...
They'll probably do a nice job.

SO...where was the problem?
Free landscaping help to alleviate an arduous burden.
More time to create and enjoy my life.
A blessing in disguise.

Wise Twitter or Perilous Twitter?

I'm relatively new to Twitter...
But the thing that I find the most compelling....
And...mentally stimulating...
Is being forced to express my thoughts within a finite space.
A VERY finite space of 140 Characters.
I've had my slip-ups and stumbles along the way...
And noticed that I'm not alone.

But the MOST REVEALING pattern is....
The different types of characters that get exposed
Both consciously and subconsciously.

The "True" person comes to surface ....
The simplicity of truth.
A modern "Freudian Slip"!

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Art for Truths Sake NOT Public Consumption

The integrity of Art is not for sale...
OR, going along with whatever is tweeted.

I recently witnessed and participated in a couple of writers commenting ....
They referenced the ICON Ernest Hemingway.
Apparently, Ernest Hemingway wasn't comfortable with his first drafts.
These budding young authors referenced this "master" when...
They arduously became disillusioned with "first drafts" of writing...
Falling VERY short of their "purist" expectations.

Hemingway apparently was candid about having to subject himself to several "drafts" to arrive to HIS truth.
When I questioned the VALIDITY of this concept....
That first drafts were not ALWAYS "shit" as Hemingway proclaimed...
But rather a problem when too much thinking to cover up the truth was exercised.
One of the tweeters.....an acclaimed author....renneged on her initial response... RT.
But she kept her response "narrow".
She @ me stating that she did her "best" writing on initial drafts...
Then, WHY in God's sake, did she agree with her "followers" when they referenced Ernest Hemingway's personal issue when he wrote first drafts? That it took at least 5 revisions to arrive at the "truth" of his purpose in writing?

I don't understand.
This "budding" author reminds me of Bill Clinton.
Taking a "poll" is more pertinent than personal integrity.
A certain character needs to be mindful of authenticity...
Especially if they want to be a viable force in the literary arena!

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Know Your Self...Know Your Relationships....Know Your Solutions

Denial Kills the Soul

Two twenty-eight year old women...
Friends conversing on Twitter...
The Scientist Writer wanted reassurance from her friends.
Something about her marriage troubled her.
She had difficulty communicating her feelings to her spouse.
So...she forwarded her husband a link..
She was afraid that she was TOO assertive with her husband.
A Writer friend responded with laughter.

A superficial response to a deep troubled feeling....
Scientist Writer was on the right track trying to express her feelings...
She was worried that she was being TOO FORWARD with her husband.
What kind of marriage did they have that she stressed about communicating with her husband about having a baby?

So I Tweeted my "take" on this genuine concern.
More needed to be addressed other than laughter and forwarding a link.
A faster than lightening reply appeared in my @CoffeewithB....
Her troubled concern turned into....
"Tongue in cheek.....we're 100% in agreement on baby time line....the perils of 140 characters."

The French have a saying....
"Qui s'excuse, s'accuse." (He who justifies himself, gives himself away.)

Her subconscious is gnawing at her....
Scientist Writer chooses to project an IMAGE of a solid marital front...
It's ONLY going to get worse...
Unless...

The solution is to analyze both of their handwriting to understand...
Is Scientist Writer the type of character who goes along to get along in order to avoid conflict?
Why does she deny?
What is her husband's innate character?
Why does Scientist Writer have so much trouble communicating with him?

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Know Your Self ....Know Your Relationships......Know Your Solution

Madonna's Misinformed Focus

I woke up to
Elle Magazine's Tweet ....
Their Quote of the day.....

Madonna believes that she won't be "Happy" unless she becomes as famous as God.
She's STUCK in a Universal Notion of PERFECTION.
Somehow her innate character fell into quicksand....
She needs the aid of her other energy points to
Save her from sinking.

The source of Madonna's unhappiness is internal....
Buried way deep below her strenuous workouts...
and the firing applause of her followers.
Her innate character gets Angry...
I recall hearing that she was a straight "A' student...
Something happened early on in her life that infuriated her...
But instead of addressing this injustice directly she shifted the focus ...
Madonna at first shifted the focus to doing the "correct" thing with her grades in school....
Then....she went to an opposite extreme to perfect herself in the Universal Realm of Fame!

Madonna experienced two failed marriages...
She has two impressionable children...
What happened to this talented woman to thrust her to such extremes?
She's the victim of blind courage......fanatical.....desperate.

Look what happened to Faust...Oscar Wilde's Dorian Grey...Icarus
They sold their souls for eternal knowledge and eternal youth......
They overindulged themselves in feasts of the body.
Icarus suffered his meltdown trying to reach the sun / God.

All of their ends were tragic.
There's still time for Madonna...

Know Your Self ........Know Your Relationships......Know Your Solution
Coffee with the Subconscious.

Art or Deception?

It was November of 2007.
The cover of a reputable magazine caught my eye...
It had actual handwriting on its cover.
I was rushed and didn't have time to read it...
But I kept it.

It was THE ART ISSUE of W Magazine....
Isn't art supposed to be imitative of truth?

The Creative Director, Dennis Freedman, wanted to...
"Focus on women iconographic figures."
Hence, the signed cover of Angelina Jolie and subsequent signed photos of other famous women: Britney Spears, Jessica Simpson, Julia Roberts, Jennifer Aniston, Katie Holmes, Cameron Diaz, Lindsay Lohan and Nicole Kidman.

But it's not the women in the photos that have signed their pictures.
Richard Prince signed each woman's photograph.
It's this "contemporary" artist's character and personality depicted on each photo...
It's Richard Prince's attitude and feelings of each woman celebrity that is projected on to the world.

Interestingly, when Richard Prince thinks of Cameron Diaz and Julia Roberts his affect is clear, objective and to the point. Then he springs into an exaggerated arrogant mindset at the thought of Angelina Jolie.

Direct and tenacious....Richard Prince is comfortable in frivolous deceit.
He has a strong tendency to exaggerate and let his imagination run away with him...
He really doesn't realize that he's lying or exaggerating...
It makes him feel good, rich and powerful!

So.....why did W Magazine ....opt for deceiving their clientele and defame the integrity of these famous women?

Julia Roberts... Ambitious or Just Destined?

On the Good Morning America video clip I just happened to click on....
George Stephanopoulos asked Julia Roberts this question:
Are you ambitious?
Julia Roberts answered something like...
No...it's more of a lofty sense of destiny.

George seemed surprised with her answer.
As a "Destined" Graphologist...
Julia's answer made sense to me.

All my life I've saved every handwritten card and letter that was sent to me.
It wasn't a conscious thing...
It was something that I just HAD to do.
I usually don't save magazines...but I couldn't let go of a particular issue of W.
It was the ART issue...and it had photos of the actual handwriting of particular movie stars!
Since I don't usually read the content of handwritings...
I neglected to READ the intent of the artist...
Richard Prince's "Signed" publicity shots.

When I sat down to examine Julia Robert's "handwriting" from this magazine to write this Blog.. I sensed something amiss.....
These "Signed" publicity pictures were Richard Prince's rendition of the personality of these stars....It was HIS handwriting ....NOT Julia's...NOT Jennifer's....NOT Britney's...NOT Angelina's....NOT Katie's.....NOT Lindsay's!
But ....as an artist....Richard Prince intuitively succeeded in capturing some basic traits of the individual actresses like the reserved composure of Julia Roberts as opposed to the freer spirited Britney Spears.

Well.....so much for analyzing Julia Robert's handwriting to decipher her answer.
But I do know this....
Julia Roberts isn't contrived....She's true to her own rhythm.
Her personal path and her movies are a live depiction of her "Lofty sense of destiny".

I give Julia Roberts a lot of credit for shaping her destiny wisely despite a few stumbles along the way. We're all human...it's how we deal with the wrenches that are thrown at us in life that reveal our true characters.

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious.
www.bettyrozakis.com

Why the Appeal for Eat Pray Love?

Several years ago, one of my clients sent me the book...
EAT...PRAY ....LOVE by Elizabeth Gilbert.
She was sooooo excited to share it with me.
I tried to read it....
But something about it bothered me...

Last night I reluctantly saw the movie.
I respect the starring actors....Julia Roberts, Javier Bardem and Richard Jenkins.
I witnessed the interview with Julia Roberts and George Stephanopoulos...
Why did Julia Roberts act in a similar capacity to my client?
Why did Julia Roberts send this book to all her friends as a Christmas present?

Watching the movie, I thought that Julia Roberts did a brilliant rendition of Elizabeth Gilbert.
Especially in the scene in the car with her husband....
Liz looked at her husband with a look of DISDAIN as he talked about graduate school.
What kind of a woman would look down her nose at a man who was trying to better himself?
A woman with a superior/ aloof attitude that will manipulate others for her own gain.
A woman with deep unresolved issues that go very deep in her subconscious.

Interestingly, this type of character requires humility and meditation for personal positive growth. Hence, the need for this Indian guru that really didn't physically exist.
Elizabeth Gilbert's character at its highest level is service rather than silence oriented.
It made sense that Elizabeth easily aborted her pledge for "silence tag" to be the welcoming hostess for incoming converts in India.
Why couldn't Elizabeth Gilbert deliver the same compassion towards her husband?

I'm not for certain because I don't have her writing in front of me. However, I sense that her husband didn't fill her subconscious need. Elizabeth Gilbert's basic character trait is full of Pride. She looked down at her husband ....She saw him as mediocre and weak. She needed to leave....run away to a far away place. She needed to fulfill her subconscious need of depth and security....A depth and security that required a substitute father figure. The far away places masqueraded as this depth of security. She also sought a superior image that could only be met through the seductive allure of a foreign older man. Elizabeth Gilbert's Javier conquest.

I'm so haunted by the personal torment and pain that I've experienced from so many of my clients. Their personal pain stems from deep unresolved relationships that go WAY back to the early days of their lives. The problem is this: These individuals get married before they have a true understanding of themselves and then create HAVOC for those they end up marrying. And if they have kids....what a mess!!!!

Yes, Elizabeth Gilbert is on the right track by being introspective....the meditation of India. But what is the deep underlying cause of her restless subconscious? Did she find it in the father substitute exotic foreign image of her new husband?

The wake that she created is troublesome.
Life is all about the process....
What prompted her initial marriage?
Why did Elizabeth Gilbert reach her lower levels of development with her aggressive and vindictive behaviors toward her unsuspecting husband?

Does her pride stand in the way of delving deep and exposing the real truth?

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious.
www.bettyrozakis.com

They're a Dynamo!

They wouldn't take "NO" for an answer.
I was scared to death!
I just couldn't do it....
How was I supposed to orient my head
to think another way?

I could hardly cut and paste...
But I could do e-mails.
They were DETERMINED to BRAND me...
And get me on to social media ....
Blog and Tweet....
Mann oh mann...I was going to make ssssoooo many mistakes.
How was I going to cope?

How do ya do...? What's this mean?
How do I get into Twitter?
How do I create a new Blog?
What? Sign in? Sign Out?
@...#...What the heck?

They fumed with my excessive questions....
You need to LOOK and THINK it through...
This is what they kept repeating....
The drill sergeants made me figure it out for myself.
Tough Love.

Now I'm addicted...
NewYorkCityPR is off to LA....
Seizing a REALITY opportunity that totally suits their nature.
They know who they are.

Thank you NewYorkCityPR.

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Know Your Self... Avoid Calamity

I watched Marian write in front of me..
Her rigid self-control..
Like she was wearing a uniform.

She couldn't ...wouldn't dare express
How she really felt.
She conditioned herself to adapt to what others wanted...
But in actuality....it was what SHE thought that they wanted.
She hardly listened to them....
Only heard what she wanted to hear.

Soooo used to squashing her true feelings and desires.
Her character is the type to need to do the right thing...
She had to do the correct thing....
She had to make sure that everyone and everything around her was perfect!

But her handwriting revealed all her bottled up anger...
She felt embarrassed...
But needed to hide it by manipulating the truth about her life.
This made her feel sad and depressed.

I asked her what her husband was like.
She adamantly stated that HE was the perfectionist.
She described his writing as being messy.
I gently stated that she had mistaken notions and that I could help her ease her burden.

She was stuck in her original energy point of perfection...
She didn't know how to break away...
Introspection and having fun were her remedy.
But the key is...
Does she want to break away?
She's in her 60's...
Is it too late?
NO....but she has got to want to see herself.

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Know Your Self.... Know Your Relationships.... Know Your Solution

What's Wrong With Me?

Quarter Year Crisis?
Mid-Life Crisis?
Am I Bi-Polar?
Why am I so unsettled / depressed?
What can I do to help myself?

It's important to understand your innate basic driving force...
Is it image....fear....or anger?
Then...let's look at your handwriting and see where you're stuck.
Do you lack courage?
Are you trying to be too perfect?
Are you trying to please everyone but yourself?
The list goes on and on and on.

What should you do to get more "in sync" with yourself?
Here's some possibilities....
The right productive activity.
Being authentic.
Stop questioning and have faith.
Introspection.
Relaxing on a beach.
Creativity.
Understanding those unresolved relationships.

Get your customized answers..

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

Is Roberto the Real Thing for Ali?

Ali gave Roberto the "First Impression Rose"...
There was something about him that she immediately sensed.
And him too...
It was in his rhythm
That couldn't be changed.....
Or pretended not to be.

Ali fell for his deep sensitivity
and his focused demeanor.
He was a serious solid guy
Who just happened to be VERY good looking.

But was he for real....
or another chameleon like a few of the others?
The evidence / confirmation came on the last night.
Roberto presented her with their picture with his message on the back.

It was a contained well-structured
Spontaneous writing...with adaptable self-control.
His deep sensitivity was shown in his Hippocratic temperament.
Granted, I was only able to examine the writing for a brief moment off the television screen...
But it seems that it's enough to confirm what was already sensed.
Thank you Ali and Roberto for bringing true romance back into our lives.
We wish you all of life's best!

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com

The Subconscious Connection of Brad and Angelina

On the set of Mr. and Mrs. Smith....

Brad and Angelina immediately connected.
They couldn't help themselves.
It was beyond their conscious moral grasp.
There was no turning back.

Both scandalously clever...
Both possessive....materialistic...
The love of intrigue spurred them into action.
And the thought of conflict and controversy triggered their joy of anticipation...
Not avoidance.

What a perfect set for the spontaneous thrust of similar virtues....
Enjoying the web and fight of intrigue.
Two actors playing the roles that emitted from their souls...
The meeting of two similar souls that became their real life.

They created a wake they knew they would survive and conquer from.
A relationship that works....
Derived from two complimentary rhythms....
Originating deep in their soul...
The marriage of their subconscious.

Because You Deserve a Great Relationship...

Betty Rozakis Graphology
Author of Coffee with the Subconscious
www.bettyrozakis.com